As a single 25 year old woman, the idea of a committed, settled relationship really appeals to me. Don’t get me wrong; I’m happy, my life is good, I love my job, my family, my friends but there are times when I wish I had somebody by my side to share my experiences with.
To get to that stage I have to get through the unpredictability and excitement of ‘dating’.
So this post is to all my fellow single ladies out there, with a bit of advice I’ve learnt particularly about that very first date.
Where should the first date be?
Steer clear of ‘interview’ dates. These include going out for dinner or a drink at a bar. With these types of dates typically you are sitting opposite your date and it naturally turns into both parties throwing questions at each other. You don’t want to interrogate your date, you want to get to know them!
Go for a stroll, go to a museum, crazy golf; pick somewhere you can walk and talk at the same time at a leisurely pace. The first date is all about a shared experience between the two of you, and the connection. Make memories together from the first date.
Talk about yourself but don’t forget your manners
Accept compliments and feel free to talk about your achievements, but remember to keep the share of attention equal between the two of you. Be polite and considerate; make your date feel welcomed and feel like they can confide in you.
Dates are supposed to be fun, so don’t worry if you accidently drop your drink. As long as you can laugh about it and don’t make too big a deal and get embarrassed, your date will see how relaxed you are. Remember you’re human, and it’s probably not half as dramatic as you think!
Experts say you decide if you are attracted to someone on that first date. More specifically, in the first few minutes. Body language plays a huge part in this. Open up; don’t cross your arms, smile and talk with your hands. You will appear approachable and welcoming, making himfeel much more relaxed. Mirror his body language; if he tucks his hair behind his ear, do the same but subtly. Mirroring body language comes across as complimentary of his actions, they always say imitation is the sincerest form of flattery!
A positive attitude is the most important thing to take with you on your first date. Don’t forget to smile! Pay your date compliments; ask questions and act interested if you are. Talk about things you have in common; remember if the emotional connection is there it will become obvious and you won’t have to force anything.
If you want to see them again, let them know. Forget the ‘rules’; ask him on another date! If you are interested, don’t end it on a hug, have a cheeky kiss. Let it happen. Your actions on the first date will establish whether this is a romantic connection and something you want to carry on this way.
Let me know if you have any first date advice, I would love to hear it!